What if you are perfect as you are? What if there is nothing you should or shouldn’t be?
Many self-development programs set “change” as a goal: the new and improved you.
I’m proposing the possibility that you’re perfect as you are. And I’m perfect as I am. That none of us needs to be any different than what we are.
Radical Honesty is a lot about owning and accepting who you are and being honest about the qualities we like about ourselves and being honest about the qualities we judge ourselves for.
I think a great power exists in me expressing out loud my anger, jealousy, sadness, fear, embarrassment or a desire to control others. These things are part of me and they are not me.
The more I own the “unpleasant” side of myself, the shadow side, the less those qualities define who I am.
So, I’m inviting you to consider the possibility that to be happier you don’t need to be any different. And every moment you share something vulnerable about yourself with others you will feel more love and appreciation towards yourself. And, most likely, others will love you more.
I got inspired to write this after a workshop in Kalikalos, Greece, which I led last month. We had a few conversations on this topic and I saw—again—how relieved people respond when they hear that they don’t need to be any different. And I reminded myself that I don’t need to be any different, either.
By showing your vulnerability, you give a gift to others and to yourself. And by doing so, you also make an invitation to the people around you to follow the path of honesty and see how we don’t lose by showing ourselves—that we actually all win.