Since my first Radical Honesty workshop in 2017, I consider myself a recovering perfectionist nice-guy. I have often been (and still am at times) concerned with doing things the “right” way and making no mistakes — a perfect life that left me stressed, inauthentic, and frequently disconnected. In order to not offend anyone and be liked by everyone, I fabricated a neat, friendly, smiley, social mask. Without it, I was scared, sometimes even running away from groups and social situations, or hiding behind a sophisticated verbal shield, being impressive in the face of fear. What a great leader! (NOT.. sarcasm alert!)
Through my honesty practice, I have glimpsed (and continue glimpsing) at how letting go of all of that exhausting controlling stuff can be freeing yet also enormously empowering. It’s sensing and relating in a world that is too unpredictable and ambiguous to do anything else anyway. I love it! And I feel like living more and more grounded in reality, being more helpful for friends and colleagues who need advice or guidance, and even leading teams and groups with a lot less drama than I used to.
So, after countless honest experiences I still sometimes find myself in between terror and joy when relating and sharing honestly, and I came to love the ride. The ride of MY life rather than the one that others might want me to lead or find more comfortable. And I want to share this love with as many people as possible. I want to spray it across the walls (which I won’t) and scream it from the tops of roofs (which I might).
What Bernhard is writing about himself from third person:
Bernhard is an Honest Leadership & Culture Coach, Immunity To Change Facilitator, and Trauma-Informed Psychological Counselor. After completing a Master’s degree in Strategy and Innovation Management he went through Teach For Austria’s Leadership program as a Fellow before joining the organization as a Trainer & Coach and later acted as Regional Director. He immersed himself in Conscious & Adaptive Leadership, mindfulness and purpose-driven management. In order to pull all of his passions into a joint framework, he started Honestlead and now offers workshops and programs for open-minded (future) change makers.
I offer workshops, and ongoing groups on Changemaking as well as Honest Leadership for individuals and teams/organizations
If you’re interested in how you can bring more honesty and authenticity to your organization or team, I encourage you to reach out to me
- E-Mail: email@example.com
- Website: www.honestlead.at
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/reingruber/