The Best Questions of Your Life! (or do you have better ones?)

Regards from La Palma where we just finished an amazing 8-Day intensive!
(we love this villa, ocean scenery and heated pool so much that we already booked it for 2026 too!)

Right now Pete and I are just taking a few days easy with sleeping in, eating nice food and enjoying the incredible views and hiking here on the island.

Going to the topic of the newsletter…

What is something you wish your parents understood about you when you were young?
How was love shown in your childhood family?

Which three days did you enjoy the most last year?
What do you regret?
What day of your life would you like to live one more time?

How do you show love?
What is your guilty pleasure?

What could you remove from your life to vastly improve your quality of living?
What three things do you need to remind yourself whenever you feel lost?

When was a moment where you didn’t speak up and later wished you had?
Name one person you are envious of. What makes their life so desirable to you?

You might know from earlier newsletters that Pete and I very much enjoy asking each other questions.

We go for walks on the ice in our home Syvilla with some question cards with us and answer questions we like or find interesting to ponder on and answer.

We also often ask and answer a few questions while enjoying the sauna – when it is not super hot.
And we learn new things about each other!

In our home and retreat center Syvilla we have dozens of decks of question cards. Some are thematic such as relationships, open relationships, love, sex, family, diversity, antiracism and some are generic, interesting and often thought provoking questions.❓

I think asking truly interesting and somewhat challenging / beyond surface questions is an art.
For me deeper questions often open a whole new landscape of emotions, memories, sensations and thoughts to explore. ✨

Last time this happened when we were walking on the ice of Lake Kovesjärvi in Syvilla and we asked questions about what we would do if we only had 6 months to live. That sparked a question from me: what would we want to say and do with each other if one of us had less than a year left on this planet.

And what we would want to say to our sons and do with them if we were terminally ill. I got teary thinking of what I want to say to my son Niilo and all the things I want to do with him.

I also thought I better make sure I say these things and initiate these nice things to do together now.

I plan to live long and there is no guarantee. Some people I studied with have died recently (after only turning 50!). And of our younger workshops participants have also passed away.

Wishing you a great week!

Love,
Tuulia ❤️