I thought Money equals safety! (QUESTIONs to you!)

How are you with talking about money?

Do you believe that you do not deserve to have more money?
Do you overspend?
Do you stay stingy, spend very little & have a hard time enjoying your money?

Do you struggle asking for the right pay even though you know you are worth it?

Many of us have a complicated relationship with money.
I can definitely identify with many of the questions above.
I have worked quite some with money beliefs.

Especially on believing I am allowed to have money and that it is ok to charge what I believe my time and skills are worth.

And maybe the most I have looked at is allowing myself to use money happily and enjoying my money.

I am now allowing myself to invest in myself and in experiences.
Right now I am looking into signing up to a retreat and safari experience in Tanzania.
I am very excited!

At times I can be happy spending money and receiving something nice in return or knowing I am supporting the local – often small – businesses and people’s livelihoods in our town.

“I have a hard time letting go of money”, a participant recently told me.

“I can relate very much,” I shared.

They had signed for a retreat and struggled to make the payment.
They had the money in the bank and wanted to join the event.
And seeing money depart their account brings up a lot in them.
Most likely insecurity.
Worry.
Maybe an undefined fear.

I have spent a lot of my life holding onto my money and making money in order to feel safe.

For me money means safety.
At times I felt unsafe in my childhood and this was a way I knew and learned to create safety.
Or an illusion of safety

I still have the thought that money brings safety.
And I have been able to shift that somewhat.

I try to actively tell myself that I am actually allowed to spend money and enjoy it!

Few of the relationship agreements I made with Pete are that “We will enjoy our money”, “We share our money” and “We are generous with our money”. (If you are curious to learn more about the relationship agreements check them out here )

I feel happy about these commitments we made.
I like that it states “we enjoy our money” not we aim or we are allowed to enjoy them.

Money seems to be something many of us make a taboo for ourselves.
For some people, sex and sexuality is a taboo while many others are pretty open about sex.
Those people might still have a squeezing feeling in the stomach when thinking about sharing how much we earn, how much we have in our bank accounts, what we might have in investments, the debt we have and the inheritance we have received or stand to receive.

How are you with talking about money?

Work more on your money beliefs in good company in the woods of Finland!

On requests we are offering for the first time ever a retreat where we really dive into our (not-useful) money beliefs and money stories!

Transform Your Money Beliefs retreat takes place 10-13 April in our retreat center Syvilla

Love,
Tuulia and Pete ❤️