I appreciate you for…
When I recently returned home from the Radical Honesty Summer Retreat at our cabins in the woods of Finland, I was met by a stack of unread Amsterdam newspapers. This morning, I stood in my kitchen eating my muesli while…
A safe space for expressing emotions
Anger remains an important topic in our workshops and in the questions that people send us. I like—even love?—talking about anger. I think there’s too little talk about anger and how to express it in a way that we can…
The Art of Listening
Right now, I hear cars in the distance, bird singing, tree leaves fluttering in the wind. I hear noise from the sky that I imagine comes from a plane. What do you hear right now?Take a moment to just listen……
Radical Honesty in the workplace
People frequently ask us questions about how to use Radical Honesty in the workplace. “Isn’t it a bit too much for the work environment? Won’t I get fired if I speak up? Does honesty really function in a workplace? But…
Rewards and triggers
I made myself happy about the many reactions I received (via email, Messenger, Facebook and in person) to my recent writing about anger. I think that vital to our happiness is learning and talking about anger: How to recognize anger. How to…
Getting over our anger!
A few people have recently asked us about how they can get over their anger. They say they express resentment to the other party (as we do in Radical Honesty) yet tend to get stuck—expressing their anger for hours even—and…
How I used to allow shame to rule my life
I don’t remember how it started. It must have come creeping up on me slowly during puberty. At some point, there was no way to ignore it: I was one of those teens who was constantly blushing - usually combined…
Me! Me! Me!
Dear friend, I want to write to you and I’m not sure what to write. I remember what my journalism teacher at university used to say about starting to write: If you first write your name, you’ll already feel better.”…
How do you balance fun and work?
How do you care of yourself? How do you ensure you have a good balance of work, fun, creativity and rest? Recently, though, I’ve been consciously looking at my working habits. And I’ve began making changes using some tools which…