Letting go
Though I’ve practiced letting go, it’s still not always easy for me to do. I have let go of several homes and moved into new homes. I’ve let go of a marriage and two other long-term relationships. I’ve been letting…
Who is your tribe?
Who is my tribe? Where is my community? Those questions arose in me after spending 12 intense days in Greece. First, Pete and I led a week-long Radical Honesty retreat in the village of Kissos (hosted by the Kalikalos holistic…
Making friends with pain
Shieet. That was my first thought about writing this. I feel my stomach turning and my heart beating. Much less, though, than when Tuulia first suggested I could write one of these. I’m super grateful, too. And happy. And excited…
Praise for the Easy-going and the Flexible
When my husband Pete asks me what I like about him, I often reply: “I like that you’re easy-going.” You might think qualities like “intelligent,” “fun,” “sexy” and/or “handsome” would be better for me to say and for him to…
Loving my body
When I was a teenager and a young adult, I had various complaints about my body. I didn’t like the pimples (or the scars from the pimples), especially those on my temples and on my back. I thought my breasts…
I appreciate you for…
When I recently returned home from the Radical Honesty Summer Retreat at our cabins in the woods of Finland, I was met by a stack of unread Amsterdam newspapers. This morning, I stood in my kitchen eating my muesli while…
A safe space for expressing emotions
Anger remains an important topic in our workshops and in the questions that people send us. I like—even love?—talking about anger. I think there’s too little talk about anger and how to express it in a way that we can…
The Art of Listening
Right now, I hear cars in the distance, bird singing, tree leaves fluttering in the wind. I hear noise from the sky that I imagine comes from a plane. What do you hear right now?Take a moment to just listen……
Radical Honesty in the workplace
People frequently ask us questions about how to use Radical Honesty in the workplace. “Isn’t it a bit too much for the work environment? Won’t I get fired if I speak up? Does honesty really function in a workplace? But…