Have you had bad Christmas experiences?Or do you remember Christmas or holidays as a happy time? Did you experience Christmas (or other family holidays) turning into something else than a cosy easy-going get-together?No happy family around a full dining table and a…
I just returned to our home SyVilla after a workshop tour in Copenhagen & Amsterdam!Pete and I had time to see friends, go to movies, visit two photo exhibitions and cycle in the city (Amsterdam) and walk plenty (Copenhagen).Last Thursday we…
Pete and I just led what I found to be a wonderful workshop here in Copenhagen.What has been alive in me again is the importance of learning a healthy way to express anger.We can express anger in a way that is connecting…
Many of us seem to be quite skillful in turning an amazing sex life into one that is run-of-the-mill if not outright unpleasant.Here are my favorite ways to ruin one’s sex life!1. Having sex only late in the evening, or…
I have been organizing Honest Date Nights in Finland for some years now and really enjoy them.I love people meeting others when being honest and real.(and by the way Pete and I talked in our first meeting about divorce and…
I received this question from our Practitioner Program participant:"What is the difference between controlling and relating?"That is a good question!And also another one related is coming up for me: how do I recognize in others and in myself ways to…
This is Pete. Tuulia usually writes these newsletters. Over the past few days, while Tuulia and I have huddled and cuddled here in our candlelit log cabin beside frozen Lake Vaavu in Finland, I’ve been thinking back on 2023 and…
Recently my anxiety lifted its head. Like a guest who has been long gone and somehow always around the corner.I was in Mallorca having a holiday with Pete after the 8-Day Intensive. We were walking around in the old town…
Anger can be as sexy as actual sex. It can create connection, intimacy and deep love and understanding. ❤️Explosive anger – I am talking about rage - can also break and hurt and create more distance and fear.Expressing anger can…
"I am a good cook"" I am good at sleeping. I really enjoy sleeping in and having lazy morning with my book, good coffee and Pete besides me" ❤️" I am a dedicated and loving partner. I listen to Pete,…