Asking for Help
For me, asking for help has not been easy. Actually, damn difficult. I grew up in the mode of, ”I need to manage on my own” and that it's a weakness to ask for help or rely on other people…
Being in the Moment
As I sit here on the pier, I feel the breeze on my face. I hear the waves hitting the shore and the loons calling to each other on the far side of the lake. I close my eyes and…
What are you good at?
Want to practice something? Many of us are very good at naming all the things we are not good at and what we have failed at. Many of us – including me – have a tendency to have more focus…
Asking for what I want
Do you want to know what I think is one of the biggest routes to happiness? Asking for what I want. Each time I want something, asking for it. When I worry that the other person doesn’t want the same…
Avoid, be stuck or feel the pain?
On Tuesday afternoon, Pete and I heard some news we didn’t want to hear. I immediately noticed a sinking sensation in my belly, like a huge stone sitting in it. Tightness, heaviness and pain in my stomach. I was noticing…
“It’s OK to fully show myself”
On Sunday, we said goodbye to 38 other honesty fans in Spitzmühle near Berlin at the Honesty Gathering. I am still so grateful and happy that we are able to meet face to face again. The Honesty Gathering and Radical Honesty &…
Let’s talk about money!
Money seems to be something many of us make a taboo for ourselves. For some people, sex and sexuality is a taboo while many others who are pretty open about sex still have a squeezing feeling in our stomach when…
I wrote, you answered
Two weeks ago I wrote about How to Be an Adult in Relationships and I got this response from Kirsi and she gave me permission to publish it: ”Your newsletter touched me a lot. The most important sentence for me…
What is perfectionism for you?
This week, I tried to consciously spend less time working and more time taking it easy. I consciously chose to not schedule calls this week and for several calls already on my agenda, I rescheduled one, chose not to join…
What makes you feel joy?
Pete and I are currently leading a year-long Practitioner Program and this month’s theme is: Pride and Joy. I love that theme! In our work, Pete and I often are dealing with the expression of “heavy emotions” such as anger, sadness, anxiety, fear, shame,…